Wednesday, December 5, 2012

Hater's Gonna Hate


I bet everyone has experienced, AT LEAST, once in their lifetime someone suddenly says or does something resentful towards you.
That either being a hateful comment, a hateful act like spreading false rumours, or just plain rumours about you. Or simply hating you, for you.
Now I could refer to my post about "root of evil" but sometimes it's even simpler than that.
They don't need to have any trauma or issues (well, if anyone has issues about anyone out of the blue then I'd say they have a LOT of issues) because they feel they see something in you that piss them off. That "something" may in fact be what they hate about themselves, or wish they had themselves.
Say you're a nice, outgoing and social person. Some may hate you based on their envy for your awesome social skills. But some may also hate simply by the fact that everyone around you likes you. Those are haters. They don't have a valid reason too, but they hate you. Sincerely.

They see something inside you or about you, that they dislike, and they can't wrap their head around the fact that no one else sees the same about you, as they do.
So they feel that they have to make everyone else see the same, or feel the same, and if you are popular then it's even easier for them to make that belivable. (Lady Gaga, Justin Bieber)
What should you do in the encounter of a hater?

Easy. /ignore

Trolls will keep on trolling, as long as they have something to troll about.
DONT FEED THE TROLL, it will die without attention.

And if that's not an option?

Then it depend on if you're even bothered by someone out there spreading negativity about you.
If you are then it depends on whether you're a male or a female, and if you have supporting friends/communities/family around you.

Sometimes it's not so bad that someone is out there broadcasting you, because that makes others curious about you.

"No PR is bad PR"

You might even get to know wonderful people who wants to get to know you, to judge for themselves, if you're as bad as the rumours wants you to be. #winning

If you're a man, being bothered by a hating man, then it's a child's game sorting the problem out:
Stand up to the person and if that leads to a brawl, well then you're besties afterwards (kidding you might be toast) but most guys will respect the fact that you stood up to them. Also most guys aren't as catty that they'd "spread lies and rumours" like a girl about you,but there is exceptions as always.

If you're a man,bothered by a woman,,thats's a sad case (not on your behalf,but hers) It'll probably sort itself out without you needing to interfere in it.

If you're a woman, bothered by a depends on your age. If you're young, say 15 and down, he probably likes you, but the caveman he is, he's not sure how to display it in proper fashion. If you're an adult dealing with another adult then, again wow... have a buddy beat him up (kidding.not really.really.not) He could still be a little caveman in the head,since that is just bad manners.(go away lesser man!)

And If you're a woman, bothered by another woman, or several (highly probable) well then that's just life for ya. Bitches be crazy, seriously. I've encountered both being hassled by men and women, but women are definately the worst. Passive aggressiveness and lurking behind the curtains, being all ninja about their resentment. It's a reason why I keep my bitches to a minimum, once their period syncs up with eachother it's bash out on the one that hasn't synced up with the rest. It's that or their hormones getting them to seem like they have a split personality. That being said, I do have girlfriends, but they are in no way like that, they're girls who keep their brain online throughout the month/year.
Since I know for a fact that girls are more likely to act a certain way I've written a little "Guideline" to know how to identify certain "people".

When it comes to me, I'm not that famous that people hate me in an instant, in fact, most people find me charming and cute with a strong personality in their first impression. That, in some cases, some people (very few) find as a threat to their position in the "pack". Though I'm not a person looking to start trouble, or even try to "steal" anyone away, there is that occasional bitch that thinks I am. I'm saying bitch because women usually are the one's that is looking to stir up trouble whenever it comes to conflicts around me, and only real women gets the honor of calling themselves a woman. I've never experienced that with men. Then again, why would a man envy my looks unless he envies my new Iron Fist heels...
No, this phenomenon I've named CBS (Crazy Bitch Syndrome) and the symptoms of it are as following:

  •  May act careful and suspicious around you: not revealing personal things about themself, scoffs at your attempts to break the ice.That is,if she has deemed you a threat to her territory, the following will happen:

    •  Expect the unexpected: trust your gut feeling. Shitstorm coming up.
    • May try too hard to seem "perfect" infront of others, preferably men.
    • Will look for ANYTHING bad (or stuff that can be twisted around until it's bad) about you.
    • Once she's found it, you'll be put on blast.
Most commonly, there will be no forewarning about the blast, and you'll probably be surprised.
  • May try to put you down infront of others, especially people that do not know you well enough to make a decision about whether or not they like you.
  • May try to get on your good side, to get any gossip about you.
  • May (if a decent relationship has been established) give you insults about you, wrapped inside compliments to throw you of guard
  • May try to steal your male friends,or your boyfriend (depends on how desperate she is to break  you down)
If you encounter any of these signals, well keep your distance and be prepared I guess?
Some may feel they deserve the critique and some may feel that they should ignore it, and some may feel they have to defend their integrity. There is no right or wrong in these kind of circumstances (try to avoid fights and killing, ofc). It's just about how you will be able to handle it afterwards. If you're able to brush it off like the bug it is, do it. If you want to respond, then do so (constructively, that is) . If you know it's gonna eat you up inside unless you respond/unwind/let go, then do something. But don't sit there with a feeling of guilt, anger or resentment. Nobody feels you being offended.

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